THE ORPHAN

A Twitch In The Hands Of The Clock….

A glimpse of what life looks like will make us come to terms with many orphans. Roaming aimlessly in the streets, with no one to call Dad and no shoulder to lean on and call “ mum” or the one that is lucky to have a home learns to call a stranger “mum” and an unlinked lineage man “dad”. That's exactly how the life of an orphan looks like. Should we call them “ Faceless” because most of them are unseen and have no one to stand up for them? The strong foundation which laid erect a solid building, having to its front a solid standby signboard with no other inscriptions than “ORPHANAGE HOME” is a home, which behind it lies different stories, different walks of people with untold stories. A story too bitter to be remembered. Do some even have a story they can say “I remembered when I was still with my parents” or they just found themselves behind the building, having no where else to point to as home other than the ORPHANAGE? Those are even the lucky ones, who had someone to pick them up and give them the opportunity to call somewhere “A home” What about those who till today have to pick up their lives from the gutter and mould out who they want to become?

What Makes An Orphan Different From Us Other Than The Pamper We Receive From our Mums, while They Receive Theirs In Piece?

There was a time I was so overwhelmed and I needed someone to talk to. I walked down the corridor , turned left and turned a door's knob and walked in, then stopping in the mid of the room I entered, broke down without talking. Why? The room was no other than my mum's. Why did I do that? Why couldn't I have just walked into any other room other than hers? I have my siblings and my dad there and there is definitely doors to their room too, but why did I chose that one door to enter? I chose that door cos I was so such I would:

*be rushed to: Nothing triggers a mother's adrenaline more than seeing their child in distress. On impulse, the first thing a mother would do when she notices a sign of distress in her child is spring up immediately and rush to him/ her. And this is a divine incidence that happens only between the blood mother and her blood child.

*be attended to immediately: Nothing matters to a mother anymore at a moment when her child is down. She would abandon nursing her cuts just to attend to her child. Mothers would go extra miles just to attend to satisfy the child, no matter the sacrifices she had to make on the cause of getting it.

*be pampered and understood: The moments a child cries to her mother, the mother's main aim would be on how to pet him and understanding the nature of his distress. A mother would never blame first but make sure to calm your down, soothe you and make you feel at rest with her, first before anything You will find comfort in her that you will find yourself spilling everything out to her; even those you don't realize you are keeping.

*find a shoulder and a rock to lean on: A mother would make you feel your burden are the lightest to carry. She will crotch down to your level to offer you her shoulder. She will make you feel loved and treasured. She will give you the assurance that all is going to be well and calm you down with all the magic words she could gather. And no one can offer this more than a mother.

*have her back no matter the decision I take so far I am on the right path: “Don't worry, dear. You have my back” is always a mother's word, when you make the decision they feel is the best for you. When you are successful in what you decide on, she will be there to celebrate your success with you, and when you fails, she will still tell you “You made your plan but God had another plan for you which is the Best “

Now, does an orphan have all these on a platter of gold? 

These are something they can never get again from someone they can naturally call “Mother” The only thing left for them to cherish might be the memories they had left with their mum before she went away or died,and that's if they even have a memory at all. Some don't even know what it feels like to have a mother. Some just know a word called “Mother” exist in the Layman's Dictionary. They never got to have the deep feeling of what the relationship entails. Those that are lucky to have a mother role in their lives, can certainly not be as fulfilled as having their real mother with them. Majority of the orphans wouldn't mind sacrificing their most treasured property just to have a taste of mother’s love and you, who has his mother to his beaks and call find it so much appropriate to make your mother an object of ridicule. Just think well, before it is too late. We never get to know the true worth of someone until they are far away from us. Then I realized how much the orphan are suffering, for lack of motherly love and I couldn't help but drop a tear for them.

How Much Do We Depreciate our Father’s Worth When All They Want is to Have Someone to Truly Call Father ?

Some few days back, my mum was out on a vacation and I was left alone with my dad at home. For the first time in years, I had the opportunity of having a heart-to-heart talk with my dad, without mom being there and he taught me hundreds of lesson in just one night. I realized how much I had missed, from someone I tagged “wicked”. I sat down and had a reflection of who my father has really been in goodness for the past years that I had turned a blind eye to and I realized, I had been unfair. In a night, I saw in my father:

*A man who would do his all to make his family satisfied; particularly, his children.

*A man with deep wisdom who works based on his instincts rather than emotions.

*A man who would rather guide you against the future than keep hammering the present on you.

*A man who would go thousands of miles to bring food to his families table, yet won't mind eating a morsel when it is not enough.

*A man who would protect his daughters jealousy from the outside world and trian his sons to stand against the outside world.

*A man who won't mind being in debt just to see that his children are successful and comfortable.

*And a man, who wanted so much to be pampered but yet he couldn't say he out cos he feared his children might think he is not capable enough to protect them, showing his vulnerability.

 

And after the night with my father, I came to realize had he been gone, I would had missed a Treasure. This brings me back to my thought of the orphan, who has neither a father to protect them, nor a dad to guide them. Those orphans, who walk the street tends to listen to guidance from those who need guidance themselves. They end up following advices that ruin their lives, which would have been corrected had there been a father to guide them.

What We Have On A Platter Of Golds, They Won't Mind Walking The Sahara Desert To Have It All Just for A Day.

Majority of us count the three-square meals we have, the solid shelter above our head, the acess to education without stress, the daily ride in a car, the luxurious bath in water, the kingly sleep on Vita foam and lots more, as a normal routine that nobody should lack. We've enjoyed and bathe in the comfort for so long that we've forgotten that there are some out there who drink water in the morning as breakfast, fortunate to get a few grains of cooked rice as lunch after a back-breaking job and then, drink water again as dinner, then sleeps under the bridge in the exposed unfavorable climate at night, wakes up again to walking around with little to nothing education, skipping bathing cos it's a Herculean task queuing at the public toilet for a bath with a bucket of water sold at one hundred naira; a considered luxury for a good morning breakfast.

Yet They Mock Them; Forgetting That It Was A Twitch In The Hand Of The Clock That Changed Everything.

I have seen, watched and witnessed countless of scenarios where non orphans, Favoured privileged person (FLP )find it very appropriate and a think of enjoyment to make fun of the orphans; Conditioned Less Privileged People (CLPP). Just a few things to reflect on and I would go my way. Dear Favoured Privileged People; The CLPPs Oppressor. Before you open that torrent on themin forms of all you've got, remembe thatr:

*They were once like you, with someone to claim as a mother and a rock to call “Father”. A twitch in the hands of the clock changed everything.

*They were conceived the same way you were conceived, moulded from the same type of element, formed the same way you were formed, and birthed the same way you were birthed. With certainty, your nature is alike, so remember, a twitch in the hands of the clock can change everything.

*They never prayed to be where they are. They just found themselves there threading the path of destiny. They prayed to be where you are yet, a twitch in the hands of clock changed everything.

*Some of them were once like you. Enjoying all the comforts in their homes and living with all the riches before a twitch in the hands of the clock throw them to where they are right now.

I feel my pen has want to start bleeding on this,so I would move forward without a word.

The Sky Is Their Limit.

One thing many people failed to remember is that Life challenges build us and challenge us to do better. When we remember what we've gone through in the face of adversities, our struggle from the scratch and how much we've travelled, to back down would be erased from our Dictionary. From my research, orphans are people with strong wills. They are people whom life had thrown challenges,yet they want to make a lemonade out of it. They are people who leads tomorrow cos they have had experience of what life looks like. Is it from life in comfort, to life on the street, to life in the Forest and life in the Desert. Most of them, leads a nation well having known where to expect life challenges and how to deal with them. From toiling under the soil to hawking in the rain, their strong Will hold a nation together firmly. Once they get an edge to start, they never back down and they set the sky as their limit. And when they eventually get what they want, believe it or leave it, they would go extra miles to protect it.

Conclusion 

I came to realize that what most of us possess on a platter of gold are something we actually don't know its worth. We count how easily we are able to procure something as a breeze task, while in truth, we are just chanced to get it. The easiness as to having it at our fingertips made us not realize we are actually holding a diamond not a glass. The easiness as to having it at our fingertips made us throw diamond away, while thinking its a glass. Do we realize that supposed “glass” we throw away, someone won't mind having a plastic in it's place. Just a plastic and they would be fine. We kept saying we are compassionate towards the orphans yet they don't know and can't feel it. Why don't we raise our voice together and make them feel LOVED. Stop that coldness and irrationality towards them. They never wanted to be there. Just a twitch in the hands of the clock changed everything. They also want to feel LOVED AND WANTED. Saying just an “I love you” to an orphan goes a long way in doing the magic.